A Letter to All Mothers Suffering with Emetophobia or OCD

I just want to take her to get ice cream. She’s six – she’s a great kid, and I want to do something special – just the two of us.

But my OCD makes everything an epic battle.

My chest starts to constrict before we arrive. I want to act normal for her. We find a parking spot and walk hand-in-hand toward the shop. I reach my bare hand toward the door. I’m not using my shirtsleeve this time. Act normal.

A familiar voice angry-whispers inside my head: Don’t do that! What if we get sick?

Understanding and Sharing the Mental Load—How Partners and Loved Ones Can Facilitate Postpartum Rest, Recovery, and Wellness

When a new baby arrives, everyone’s attention shifts to feeding schedules, sleep stretches, and baby milestones. But beneath the surface, many new parents—especially the birthing parent—are carrying something less visible but mighty: the mental load.

If you’re the partner or loved one of someone who just had a baby, understanding and actively sharing the mental load can help you show up in deeper, more meaningful ways.

Tips for Getting the Help You Need During Postpartum Recovery (and Beyond!)

“Let me know if you need anything.”

It’s a kind offer — but when you’re sleep-deprived, physically recovering, and emotionally stretched, figuring out what to ask for can feel impossible.

Here are three things to consider that make asking for help a bit less daunting (and more likely to help you get what you need from your community):